It’s #writerwednesday, let’s talk writerly things.
I’m really grateful for my friend Rebecca Horner. Becca and I have been friends since we were both in college poking away at fan fiction in different states and chatting over IM. Not much has really changed, we’re out of college and moved on to things like jobs and new homes/apartments. We still live in different states and we still chat on IM.
We have our major project together. Which we’re discussing doing a newsy/chatty behind the scenes blog about. (Is mildly excited.) There is still fan fiction and her role playing stuff and our own individual book projects. And when either of us feel stuck or are making things up off the top of our heads (or pulling them out of our asses), we sit there and talk it out.
Sometimes, I don’t say anything and let her ramble it out. And other times, she doesn’t say anything and lets me ramble it out. Because there are problems in our heads and we have to work through it verbally. And it’s a lot easier to work through it verbally with or at someone else than at a blank wall. (Because a blank wall can make you feel like you’re going crazy, especially when you find yourself talking at yourself in public and then run into someone you weren’t expecting.)
There are times when both of us have ideas or she has an idea that seems wild or crazy or she’s making something up and I have to get up and cook dinner or I sit there and start applying logic to the idea and end up coming up with solution to the problem or expanding on something and making it better. Or she does this too. (I did this the other day. She had what she called an ‘evil’ idea that she wasn’t sure would work for our project. I went and made spaghetti and washed some dishes and came up with a solution that I rambled at her about for a good ten minutes while she sat there, nodded and laughed. Now the question is can it actually be DONE.)
The brain can be a funny organ. It’s the hub of commands and thoughts and the central processing system of our bodies. And it has all sorts of electrons zipping along nerves between the different halves. And like with all computers, it can get stuck or bungled up or just plain seem to lose information. (Have you ever been searching for that one word and it’s there on the tip of your tongue but you just can’t get it out of your brain to your mouth?) There is an entire nerve center for processing emotions. And even your emotions can be expressed or unexpressed verbally. All sorts of electrical problems as my daddy would say.
By talking things out, you can straighten out your processes, clear your brain to get past or around that blockage that’s keeping you from seeing the solution. You are able to articulate the problem and by articulating the problem you create a pathway to start working towards a solution of the problem.
So, next time you’re stuck on that thorny writing problem and you aren’t sure where you want to go, don’t be afraid to talk it out to a friend, a mentor or even a tape recorder. Just, talk it out.
Thank you, Becca. I know I wouldn’t be as far as I am today without your invaluable help and input.